Tit For Tat Is Tot

Posted: August 6, 2011 in Uncategorized
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“It is the characteristic of the magnanimous man to ask no favor but to be ready to do kindness to others.”~ Aristotle

Two things right away before I get into my post. #1- Quit snickering, you pervs! “Tit for tat” has been around for many centuries in the English language. It is a shorter version of the phrase “this for that”. #2- I can really get deep with the philosphical quotations.

Today, I witnessed a rather unusual spectacle. Two people were ironing out some logistics of a deal that they were trying to make. It most certainly sounded like a situation of “I’ll scractch your back, if you scratch mine.” As I became curious, I fully involved myself in the conversation that was taking place and I heard the two parties come to an agreement. Some labor for some food.

Food was then dispensed and consumed. And because I had involved myself, I was invited to eat as well. But when it came time for the person to do the small labor, they bolted. When that had happened, I excused myself from the situation entirely and never looked back. I had a feeling that the person who was jaded was going to ask ME to do the small labor for him. And I would not have been physically capable of doing so, otherwise I probably would have. So even before the person did ask, I told him of my physical limitations, thanked him for the meal, left him some cash for it, and departed.

I was wondering what the guy who had fled was thinking. He was visibly hungry and was wanting to eat. The other man was more than willing to help nourish him for the evening for as long as he would get some help in doing some chores around the house. Apparently, selfishness and greed was either that which took better of the man, or it was what he had planned all along.

There used to be nothing wrong with tit for tat. It was very common for it to occur at one point in time. Now, it is society’s sickening and rude attitude of “What’s in it for me?” that controls the situation, and I think that is just wrong.

Yes, you are going to receive something in return in these situations. I just don’t understand or see the point in making the scene worse by trying to gain the most out of it. I mean, to the point of where the arrangement becomes so uneven to where the other individual doesn’t even want to continue discussing it. I’ve dealt with that myself. I’ve given in to other people’s evil and selfish desires all because I needed a little help.

Doing someone a favor any more tends to come with a hidden agenda. If you help me, then I am automatically enslaved and in debt to you. Umm, no! It should not be that way. It should not be something that you should be taking advantage of the other person for. It seems like favors have gone out the window.

Whatever happened to doing something out of the love and kindness of one’s heart? That is what a favor really is. And should there come a time where I can return the favor, I should be more than happy to do that- without having this heavy burden hung over my head and begin told, “Remember I did __________ for you??”.

All of us can use a little help from time to time. All of us have had our moments in life where we were absolutely in need of something that we couldn’t do ourselves. It doesn’t appear that the generosity of others exists any more. As I said, when someone asks for help, it is always the attitude of “What’s in it for me?”.

Just help the person, for crying outloud!! I am sure that if they didn’t need to ask you for help, they wouldn’t and probably would be ten times happier if they could do it on their own. But for whatever reason, they feel that they cannot.

In my own life experiences, I have to ask for help. A LOT! That’s just the way it is. And yes, I will offer some kind of an exchange. But I do not do it to sweeten the deal so that you are going to agree to help me, I do it because that is what I feel is best in my situation for me to do, as a way of saying “thank you” for your kindness and help.

I’m not the first to say it or admit it, but today’s society SUCKS!!

[side note: the subject title- the line should read “Tit For Tat Ist Tot“, ‘Tot’ being the German word for ‘dead’. “Tit For Tat Is Dead“.]

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