Find Your Heaven

“Ah, to think how thin the veil that lies Between the pain of hell and Paradise.”~George William Russel

Too many times we find ourselves sinking through the quicksand of our own negativity in our personal lives. Too many things that we feel have “gone wrong” always keeping us from rising from the ashes and prevents us from exploring all of the things that we find wholesome, pleasant, and enjoyable.

Our human nature is fixed on thriving on the worst things in life. And we find ourselves in an seemingly impossible state to ever be happy again. We tend to allow our brains to thrive on what is keeping us unhappy.

We all have our own things in life where our situation calls for us to believe that “we are in hell.” Yes, we have the bad with the good. But if you ask the average person to name off twenty things that they are unhappy about, they will find themselves snowballing beyond that twenty item list and have the desire to keep going before you have to literally stop them from continuing on.

But if you ask the same person to name only ten things that they are happy about, chances are that they are going to have more trouble trying to fill the list to make all ten items. They might be able to do it, but it will take them longer.

Whether it be work, or our home situation, or even at play- we all have those things that we involve ourselves with and deep down we just cannot stand it because it gives us so much grief and unknown pain to the outside world. We grumble and complain about having to do things that we do not want to do. After all, it’s hell: remember??

I believe that our mental health actually is dependent on both the good and the bad. It’s called “balance”. But because we are all different and we all believe different things, it can be tricky to decipher what is heaven and what is hell. In this case, mental balance is relative to what we assert ourselves to believe.

But whatever those things are, our mental health cannot attain much good if we constantly think negatively. We will never find our heaven because we are setting up residence and forwarding our mail in hell. And we are considering a new coat of paint within the walls of our trapped mind.

So what if we pause for just one moment and find something that actually pleases us? A thought, an experience, an activity. What about those things that we totally surround ourselves in joy? Nothing can be lost if you just stop and think about these things for a single moment. And not allow the cognitive distortions to creep over us and try to convince us that even though these things make us happy, that we’ll never attain it. Which is an unfounded theory and just “stinking thinking”.

We’re going to have our hell. But it doesn’t mean we have to swim in it day & night. We can also have our own piece of heaven too!! If we just calm down, breathe, and pause. Focus on the POSITIVE things that keep us encouraged and motivated to be better people.

Needless to say that how we live inside our heads, also effects how we interact with other people. And they will notice whether or not you are in your heaven or drowning in your hell.

Stop drowning. Don’t even swim. Get out of the deep end and towel off. Then go find your ideal of what your GOOD mental health can actually be and take a break for as long as you can! Refresh your batteries while you are at it too… its free of charge!