“But can one still make resolutions when one is over forty? I live according to twenty-year old habits.”~ Andre Gide
2011 is almost over. I’ve said it once before, I’ll say it again: I am so glad! I am ready to get to the year of 2012 and start over.
A fresh start and a fresh outlook that is more positive than ever is what I want to be aiming for!
Now comes the time where people are starting to think about their New Year’s Resolutions. What it is that they want to change about themselves in the coming new year.
I was reading the blog of author Leigh K. Hunt, and she had actually opened my eyes when it came to the whole idea of having to make “resolutions”.
“Make GOALS, not resolutions.” she says.
Suddenly it became clear to me. I think that making goals works far better than a resolution. With a goal, you have a set end date, your own personal deadline to achieve whatever it is that you want to do (or stop doing what you do not want to do.)
You always hear the same resolutions over and over again. I think the top New Years Resolutions are to lose weight, stop smoking, and excercise more often. Some of us make it, most of us fail horribly no matter what the resolution.
It comes down to whether or not you have the true deep down desire to do what it is you want to do in the following new year. Sticking with it also helps you become successful. So many of us (including myself) often don’t stick to our plans and then by mid-January, our lists of resolutions are thrown into the garbage.
Setting goals in the proper manner will actually allow us to be successful. Setting a goal and then not following up with it doesn’t work at all.
Example: If you want to stop smoking– then set a date. Say to yourself “I want to be stop smoking completely by ________ .” Then you have something to really work hard for. And all of that hard work will be worth it when you are rewarded with accomplishing that goal.
Sensible goals also come into play. I’ve written about that in a previous blog post.
Who knows what friends and family will make as their resolutions come the final day of 2011. But if you are not serious about it, you’re just wasting your breath and time as the clock begins to get closer and closer to midnight on the 31st.
For myself, I will no longer mention about resolutions. But instead I will talk about goals.
In the past few years, whenever I noticed someone who had broken their resolution, and I asked them about it, their response was always the same:
“Resolutions are meant to be broken.”
If that is true then why bother making them at all? Unless you are dealing with someone with a wonky sense of humor who claims that their New Years Resolution is to never make any more New Years Resolutions.
So as we get closer and closer to the new days of 2012, I hope that all will be safe as they celebrate the ringing in of the new year. Have fun, but be safe.
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!
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