“When heard someone’s boasting, I could smell shit of bull from afar.” ~ Toba Beta, Master of Stupidity
So the neighbor situation hasn’t improved. I’ve not been able to discuss with them the fact that them talking to the working attendant is not a smart thing.
I also just realized that the attendant who is talking to me about the neighbors is also at fault.
So it is up to me to at least set the attendant straight about what she talks about in my home. And that has to stop with the gossiping and talking about the neighbor.
Nonetheless, we’ve come to a close with regards to dealing with the neighbor. At least on a social level.
As was the habit, I returned to the neighbor’s home to watch NCIS. But the greeting when I showed up was less than cordial. I mean, it wasn’t even close to being friendly. The wife saw me, got up from the chair and called for her husband, announcing my arrival. It was he that got to the door and invited me in.
And then hell would break loose that I would not think clearly when I should have just up and left the home.
During the commercial breaks, I was accosted by the wife for everything and anything under the sun. The first commercial break I was accused of giving her “the finger”- 1960’s & 70’s style– with the crossing of the forearms this last Friday during the farewell party of the social services coordinator.
As much as I must admit of doing the gesture, I did NOT point it or aim it or intend for it to be AT her. But, she swears up and down I gave her the finger. And so I said softly “I’m sorry if you feel that way. But I did nothing wrong because I didn’t do anything to you.” It was juuuuuuuuuuust enough apology to smooth that wrinkle out before the program resumed on television. But it was hardly the personal apology she wanted and believes that she got.
All in all she was offended by the arm gesture. Basically that was all it boiled down to.
Accosting number two, I was not given any moment of peace or any time to defend myself or explain my behavior to her. It was all 100% my fault. And she wasn’t liking it.
But wait. She was totally offended by the gesture that I made on Friday afternoon, but she’s not offended by her own foul-mouthed profanity and calling me names? What in the world is that??
So yeah she wasn’t liking my behavior as of lately. Too bad. When people are going through tough times, particularly when a lot of it is mental and emotional, they aren’t going to act the way that you want them to.
Third commercial break I was told the tale of a different neighbor who had come to visit her this past Sunday and she had nothing but vicious and attacking words about me behind my back. Even though she (and her husband both) were discussing the situation they refused to tell me what exactly was said because this different neighbor prefaced her speech with “don’t share this with any one.”
Last commercial break was her to strongly encourage me to go talk to this neighbor who was talking shit behind my back. And made the suggestion that I kick her ass. Then report back.
Ummm… do we have to go back and ask the question about the profanity again? Or can I just imply it at that point.
Those who have heard me tell this story in person have said that they would have left after being accused of acting like a shit. But I didn’t think that I would be able to escape to be honest. At least not before someone else had something more to say. Yet I didn’t think to leave in the first place.
So that was Tuesday night. Wednesday afternoon I saw the woman that apparently had been blabbering about me and I asked her if she needed to talk to me. I never was cruel with her. I never yelled at her. I never pointed any finger. And I never called her names. I simply asked if she had anything on her mind that she needed to say to me.
And she did. She confronted me with an issue that she was genuinely concerned about. The problem was that she had already gone over to the neighbor’s home and gossiped about it there rather than coming to me instead. That was her only mistake.
But she never jumped down my throat like the first original woman.
The one that I confronted and I both learned that the woman that I had been keeping company week after week after week, to enjoy something on television with company…. is probably one of the WORST people on the planet. And that she should not be trusted with any kind of information or news.
I have a feeling that she’s going to go back to the queen of gossip and they are gonna have it out with one another.
So we’ve reached the end of the road for the gossiping neighbor. I still have to deal with the attendant and her eagerness to run her mouth. But at least I’m not going to put up any more with the neighbor.
And besides, all of those times that I’ve come on to this blog and complained about her tendencies to gossip and the food that gets prepared in their home that eventually causes some kind of digestive distress from within…. I’m not missing out on anything.