Archive for January, 2015


not ACTUAL girlfriend!


“Well, a girlfriend once told me never to fight with anybody you don’t love.”~ Jack Nicholson

This morning I was met by a friend request from an ex-girlfriend… again.

This is probably the third time I have dealt with such a request within the past four years. Each and every time, ultimately was denied and then blocked. It didn’t matter which social media was used either. MySpace or Facebook.

However today had a little bit of difference as her Facebook profile and cover photo were of her at her wedding which apparently happened sometime last year.

I still have no idea what it is that she is wanting. I don’t know what it is she thinks the connection is. Even though I have on more than one occasion expressed to her personally that I no longer wish to have any communication, any socialization with her ever again. That we should leave the past in the past, and hold on to the memories that we have. The relationship happened and then ended almost twenty years ago.

And yet this morning, I receive yet another friend request on Facebook from a completely new Facebook profile. The difference being that her last name is hyphenated. Is she only doing this to make a statement to show that she did in fact get married? Is she attempting to be a thorn in the side to shove it in my face that she is married? I don’t know. Honestly, I just don’t want to know.

I then spent the next two full hours losing myself over it all. Until I spoke with someone else who was there and willing to just listen.

I felt and heard myself getting so animated as I spoke of this rather brief situation that had happened. I mean how DARE she come after me with yet another friend request after she’s been told more than twice that I want nothing to do with her?? After all, who does she think she is???????

I even felt a bit light-headed once I had actually stopped talking to take a breath. And that’s when the person that was listening to me slapped me with a hardcore lesson in reality. A lesson that I hope to be able to share with you as you read this post.

As I reached over and grabbed my drink to take a sip, I heard them respond to everything that I had shouted and screamed and bitched and moaned about.

“Why are you giving this so much of your energy?”

Crowbar to the nuts in 3… 2 …. 1 …….. wait for it ……………………….. BANG!!

What they were telling me made sense. What I had told them, I couldn’t take back. I was exposed. I was out there and I had allowed everything to eat me up inside. A person that I haven’t seen face to face in nearly twenty years. A person in which feelings for have drastically changed. A person that I don’t even want to be bothered with- I had allowed to bother me.  fingerred

Then I was given a bonus lesson through an analogy:

If someone gives you the finger. It is up to you as to whether or not you do or say anything in response. You have that power to take care of you.

Are you going to just laugh at the person? Are you going to ignore them? Or are you going to stand your ground and pick a fight?? 

YOU have all the power in the universe to take care of you. It is your choice in how you deal with that particular situation that you have found yourself in.

Another analogy as a bonus-bonus was then presented before me in the statement of:

You cannot control who is going to knock on your door. You can control whether or not you answer the door and how you deal with the person who is knocking. Or you can choose to ignore it and just wait for the person to go away and stop knocking. It is all within you. 

And so we should take the lesson of knowing what is worth spending our energy on, what are we going to do with the power that we have in taking care of ourselves.

Here I was… on my eldest brother’s 50th birthday, and just days away from my own birthday. More information on its importance as the day arrives.

And then realizing that I am in the middle of making plans for a Round #2 with someone that I never thought I’d lay eyes on again. Once more, more information on that as it happens.

And yet with all these happy and positive things happening and about to happen in my life, the fact was that all of my energy was focusing on my ex-girlfriend’s attempt to contact me. The power was handed over to ex-girlfriend and all focus was on her, rather than being in the most happiest of moods because of many personal triumphs and celebrations.

What do you use your energy on? On what should you use LESS energy and power on? On what should you use MORE??


Penelope Soto

Penelope Soto

“America’s criminal justice system isn’t known for rehabilitation. I’m not sure that, as a society, we are even interested in that concept anymore.”~Steve Earle

If you will remember ohhhh, about nearly 325 posts ago, maybe a year ago, I wrote about the viral story of Penelope Soto and her unusual rise to viral fame in a Florida courtroom.

Since her viral story, I honestly lost interest in it because I believed that what the judge had ordered against her as judgement was fair and right.

But little did I know that there would be more to this story. The things that DIDN’T go viral which actually makes the story have a “happy ending” of sorts.

VERY quickly and VERY shortly after Soto flipped off a Florida judge, did she return to court and apologized for her actions. Then she explained that she was on drugs (the very same that she was being charged with possession of) and said that’s not who she was. The judge then accepted Soto’s apology, dropped the 30 day jail sentence for her finger action as well as the drug possession charge altogether.

Since then, I have read that Soto has been subject to random drug tests. All of which she did pass. And she returned to court to follow up on her case. But this time smiling, even cracking a joke or two along with the judge.

So now she lives her life allegedly drug free.

Don’t get me wrong… all in all, I am very happy to see that Penelope Soto has decided to stop doing drugs. But the personal levels of frustration set in because I know that if I was on Xanax as she was, and I was in court as she was, and I did the same exact thing to a judge that she had done… I would be locked up.

And as I said, this “revelation of an update” was already one year ago or more… I just never heard about it until now. Oh well!!!


“For music, unlike a $500 software program, people are paying a buck or two a song, and it’s those dollars and pennies that have to add up to pay for not just the cost of that song, but the investment in the next song.”~ Hilary Rosen

Just when you thought it was safe. Just when you thought I had given up on this blog…

I’m starting 2015 with a whopper of a story. And surprisingly enough, it does not take place in Florida. It does not take place in California. It does not take place in New York.

No, it happened in Slaton, Texas.

That’s right. Texas!!! Hang on to your cowboy hats.

81 year old Ira Keys has found himself going viral today with the story of his almost lifetime savings that he took to the bank. He deposited 500 pounds (almost 227 kg) of pennies. His total deposit amount just a little over $800 USD.

What blows my mind is that this adventure in savings started well over 60 years ago and he’s just now going to the bank. All the weight of the coin that he brought in nearly broke down his pick up truck. That’s how heavy it all was. Plus I can just imagine the looks of people’s faces inside the bank that day when he went to deposit his coins.

How far have you gone to save money? What’s the largest amount you ever put aside?