Getting Things Done For Yourself

“The whole house came up and I came up with it. I was just praying to the Lord to take care of me.”~ Willie Nelson

There’s someone new that I have been watching (willingly) on YouTube who makes daily vlogs and over the weekend makes a special video for audiences to enjoy. The daily vlogs are on one YouTube account and the special videos are on another.

The account with the weekly special videos just recently reached over ONE MILLION subscribers.

Since that point, the YouTube personality has been ranting a little here and there on their daily vlog account.

Now it all comes down to today.

Just under ten minutes of a vlog post that explains the necessity for them to take a break. The explanation that they are tired and exhausted and work hard every day to make quality videos.

The video is almost unnecessary in my opinion.

We all have our things that we do in life that keep us busy. We all have those things in life that take so much time out of our lives. And yes we often reach certain points to where we should take a break from them and then come back to them after a “reboot” so to speak.

YouTubers are no different. If you are someone who posts a weekly video or a daily video… it doesn’t matter. At some point, you’re going to feel like you are going to need to take a break.

Here’s my point:

You have this passion to make videos and upload them to YouTube. You ARE receiving some kind of monetary gift for making those videos. That’s great!!!

You also have a personal life too. The same as everyone else.

Whether you have 100 people subscribed to your YouTube channel or you have the record for having the most subscribers in the world….. you are human and will need a break.

What you do NOT need, is to go on camera and go on and on and on for several minutes explaining yourself to your audience about the decisions you are making in your PERSONAL life.

Your audience doesn’t really care because they have a personal life as well, and so when they decide to make time, they will log on and start watching your videos on YouTube. 

That’s right. I said it. Nobody cares! Nobody wants to hear you drag on for so long because you feel (for whatever reason) the need to explain yourself that you are going to take a break.

How about this: Instead of spreading the mustard on the badger, you fist the mallard and then come back and tell us all about it then?

Translation? Stop explaining yourself to your audience and take care of your personal business. And if that means you disappear from YouTube or the Internet in general for a few days- so be it.

Gather yourself, take a break, take a breather, then come back and get back to work. YouTube is NOT going anywhere… trust me!!!!!

Get things done. Get your personal life straightened out. Priorities will always come first before your hobby of vlogging.

And stop worrying about what your audience thinks/says.

JUST DO IT!!

The “Man”struate

“Women complain about premenstrual syndrome, but I think of it as the only time of the month that I can be myself.”~ Roseanne Barr

Men normally are quick to blame a woman for her behavior on her menstrual cycle, especially if she’s extra moody or comes off irrational.

Women have hated that for many years that men automatically assume that they are on their periods because of their demeanor.

Well, guess what? There’s now a flip side to this situation.

“Man” struation.

Urban dictionary defines this as:

A guy who is really irritable, bitchy and indecisive. Just like girls on their period.

So now there’s an answer for women should they choose to blame a man’s foul behavior on something else.

Men now have no grounds to blame a woman for her poor behavior as they now have something equally damning against men and their behavior.

So obviously its not THIS bad, for women. Even though they may feel like it. But still, men are just as grouchy and irritable. If it is THIS bad, consult a doctor immediately.

Men are getting more and more irritable, moody, depressed, irrational, and even less capable to get along with other people. Sometimes its worse than the woman’s PMS.

I know its something. I’ve been there. I have been there for days now, possibly weeks. It takes very little to set me off it seems. The obvious differences is that the men do not have any physical symptoms or signs, such as bleeding.

But perhaps I am getting too far ahead of myself. All this week, I’ve been sent over the edge, grouchy and bitchy and miserable and there doesn’t seem to be a sign ahead of it coming to an end.

I’ve been avoiding friends because of my attitude and behavior. And its really not all that fair if they want to socialize with me and I am just avoiding them. After all, it really is true what they say:

It is not you, it is me.

The concept of men going through this is becoming more and more accepted in today’s culture. So much that there are jokes made about it on television programs such as the comedy series, The Big Bang Theory.

My friends in my social circles are in fact important to me, and if I have been offending them then I apologize.

So women: if you have suddenly flown off the handle and a man decides to assume that you are experiencing your time of the month, keep in mind that the next time HE gets crazy… then there’s probably something to it and you can be sure that he is the one who is “man”struating.

 

Model Mischief

“Models now need to promote themselves, think like businesswomen and diversify their careers by doing other things. Chances are very slim that a mere model will become a household name today.”~ Tyra Banks

The modeling profession is something that I will admit that I do not understand. Nor do I pretend to understand it either.

It doesn’t appear to be glitz and glamour and rainbows. Some people get very famous and wealthy from being in the business and others struggle from day to day just to find work. One never really knows what will happen, it seems.

But I think that it would be safe to say that attitude is a big part of it.

And in my own personal experiences, there’s been a lot of great and decent people who have made it their profession to be a model, both male and female. And these decent people just can’t seem to get much of a break.

And then on the other side of things, there are those who have “the goods” for it, but their attitude seriously stinks. After that, they often wonder why they’ve not made it in the business.

I have known people who have done modeling in the past. And I know people who are currently doing modeling today. In my mind, a lot of those people who entered the industry struggle.

I have to shake my head at those who have the poor attitude.

A few weeks ago, I was invited to go to a party.  It was at that party, I noticed this very physically attractive woman who was there. But I did not approach her to talk to her as she had many people surrounding her wherever she went. People were using their cell phones to take photographs and video of her. It had seemed that she enjoyed being the center of attention inside of all of the spotlight. And I thought to myself that she was attractive and so it made sense that she would be swarmed by people… mostly men.

I did not plan on staying too long at this party and eventually I ended up being in the same area as this particular woman. She caught my eye and I smiled. Then she came over and introduced herself.

Rather than just stating who she was by her name, it was like she was giving me her résumé. She had been seen on this music video and that music video that is on YouTube. She’s done several local events. And she even had done a couple of photo shoots for some statewide publications.

I was not interested in all of that, I just asked her again to tell me what her name was. And so she huffed a little and told me.

Okay, fine. You’re huffing. If I am talking to you, I just want to know who you are.

She seemed okay with the conversation and I made her laugh several times. But when she started talking about her modeling career again, I became less and less interested.

I was honest with her and admitted that I had never seen her before. I had no idea that she had done some modeling work here and there. And she became a little disappointed. So then she showed me on her cell phone a lot of different shots that she had done. I mean, A LOT!!!!!!!!

Several minutes had gone by as she showed me one by one by one of each shot she had saved on her cell phone.

Of course throughout the conversation, we would be interrupted by people wanting to speak to her. A lot of them though just wanted her to sit still long enough that they could take photographs of her with their cell phones.

She would forget where we had left off and then she’d start all over again. I probably saw the same set of photographs of her riding a horse four separate times. 

I could see that the conversation wasn’t going to lead to anything. It wasn’t going to change to “getting to know you” kind of stuff. It was just going to be about her and whether or not she could jar some kind of memory that I may have hidden to the point where I could tell her, “Yeah! I’ve seen you before!!”.

This wasn’t going to happen!

Had she talked about herself and not about her job, this conversation probably would have been a little more pleasant.

Deep down I was remembering the FIRST time that this had happened to me when I spoke with a woman who said her occupation was a model. That didn’t end well either.

I was beginning to feel out of place by just talking with her. But because I had made her laugh and smile earlier, I guess she decided to stick with it. But her mission of trying to get me to recognize her was doomed from the start.

There are over million people who live here where I am. I do not think that I am going to be able to remember every single person that I have ever come across in the past 11 years. Whether I believed them to be physically attractive or not, its just not a possibility to remember everything and everyone. Especially those who didn’t make any impact on me.

This woman surely was making an impact, but the WRONG impact.

Her boyfriend got a little jealous I guess and came over and interrupted her and I talking. He took her aside and did whatever he did.

Meanwhile, I am getting bombarded by these men who had been taking photographs of her all night long with their cell phones. They showed me that they had posted them all on the Internet. Facebook, Tumblr, etc. And that was all made possible by today’s technology. One shot with the cell phone camera and you’re bright and shining face is on the Internet in a matter of seconds for all the world to enjoy.

So anyways,  the model came back and apologized for her boyfriend’s rude behavior. She started to explain her situation but I told her that it wasn’t necessary to get into all of that.

Then I decided to ask if I could take a photograph of her. This is where it took a nose dive into stupidity.

She began to explain her rates and her rules about “photo shoots”.  I stopped her and repeated my request for her a little clearer and spoke slower. Thinking that she had misunderstood what I was asking her.

Again, she talked about her rates and rules.

When I told her that I was not a photographer and I had no intention on doing a photo shoot with her and I just wanted to take photograph of her and I together, she got crazy as well as indignant.

She explained to me that she did not “pose for pictures”. And that to me made no sense whatsoever. She’s a model. OF COURSE she poses for pictures! That is probably one of the general definitions of the ins and outs of the occupation of modeling. 

She continued to inform me that I would have to pay her in order to have my photograph taken with her. Heaven forbid that I would change my mind and ask for an autograph because I had heard guys coming up to her, telling her that she was hot and gorgeous and sexy and all of that and they wanted an autograph and she declined offers the entire time.

But I have to pay for a photograph with her?

I walked away from her, telling her that it was nice to have met her. Even though now I believe that that I was lying my butt off.

I looked her up on the Internet. I couldn’t find much. I saw maybe less than half a dozen websites that mentioned her. Either because she was captioned in a photograph or she was mentioned in an article. She’s not that famous to be in a position to be charging that kind of money for something that she does in the first place.

To the best of my knowledge, celebrities and famous folks of all kinds will either decline the request and walk away or they will simply take the photographs with someone or give them an autograph and be done with it. They don’t go into business mode and start telling their fans how much it is going to cost them in order to have these things. Especially if they are met by someone on the streets.

But this model felt she had enough of the goods where she could do that, and it was a serious deflation of interest in her and what she does.

I have personally received many denied requests for autographs from people. And most of them were because they either felt that their autographs weren’t worth anything or they were just shy and uncomfortable about it.

This woman however, was bold and full of it.

It would seem to me that because she is not all that “well known”, that she would gladly pose for a photograph. And possibly by either word of mouth or by someone posting photographs on the Internet that she just might get discovered and then she’d catch her break. One simply doesn’t know if and when those kinds of situations will happen. So to me, what was the big issue and where was the harm in it?

Had she agreed to the photograph and I had posted it and someone DID notice and contacted her, then that would definitely been something to work to her advantage.

You never know what to expect when you meet certain people.

When she asked me where I was going because I had ended the conversation, my only response to her was: “Things are sometimes only skin deep.”

I’m not expecting her to figure out what I meant by that. Nor am I expecting her to come crawling back with tears in her eyes and being full of apologies. But it sure does wonders for the mind.

But I guess in a way one could say that her constant nagging of trying to trigger a memory out of me that actually was never there to begin with, is now a memory of how much of a pain she was. If she wanted me to remember her, then her mission is successful after all. Unfortunately for her though, it is not a good memory.

I do not have any hatred towards people who are or were in the modeling business. And to be truthful, I do not have any hatred towards this model either. But what drew the line for me, was her attitude.

 

 

 

Judge, Jury, And Executioner

“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. “~ Wayne Dyer

 

I have a tale for you.

 

The relationship is over. As least for these two. And it is all because of someone falsely judging another.

 

Holly had a birthday party. She invited her best friend Kimberly to come. But Kimberly had given her RSVP as a “NO”. At first, Holly didn’t think too much about it. But soon after that, Holly began to become bitter that her best friend wasn’t going to be there at her birthday party. Kimberly was the best and only friend that Holly had. And it had started back when they were both about six years old.

 

The party came and went. Kimberly of course wasn’t there. And Holly had a miserable time at her own party even though she stuck it out with wearing a mask of smiles to the rest of her party guests.

 

Holly never did go to her best friend to find out why she didn’t attend the birthday party. Instead, Holly made up her own assumptions and investigated Kimberly’s whereabouts using leads outside of simply asking her.

 

Holly decided that Kimberly was not the best friend she thought. And refused to talk to her for weeks and even months. Even though Kimberly did attempt to communicate with Holly some time after the party. Holly was too set in her ways to “punish” Kimberly for what she had done until Kimberly saw the light.

 

But because of the silent treatment, Holly ended up losing Kimberly as a friend. By the time Holly was “ready” to talk to her again, Kimberly had moved on. 

 

Holly absolutely took it upon herself to be Kimberly’s judge, jury, and executioner. Because of the fact that Kimberly didn’t go to the party, then Holly deemed Kimberly guilty of being a terrible friend and chose the method of execution to be the silent treatment. But what Holly didn’t realize is that the longer she stayed silent, the worse it got for their relationship.

 

This is just one example of how our attitudes and behaviors can actually do more damage than good. All because someone has said or done something that we did not agree with. Where in the world do we get off believing that it is “okay” to punish those people for saying or doing those things?

 

We receive the answers that we deep down, don’t want. And because of it, we set out to make those who gave us those answers to suffer. Does this make any sense to anybody out there?!?

I’ve done it. We ALL… have done this in some form or another to those whom we say that we love. But in doing so, did it ever give us the result that we truly wanted? Absolutely not!

 

If life was meant to be a peach, we’d all have pie. But then nobody would want cake. Life is full of disappointments and in some cases- failures. A lot of the times, these disappointments are out of our control. Instead of forcing our views upon people for the sake of getting our way all of the time, we should be learning from the times when things just don’t go the way we had hoped.

 

If we continue to behave like this… are WE really being the friend that we say that we are? Are we, really??