The Myth Of Drinking

“I have absolutely no pleasure in the stimulants in which I sometimes so madly indulge. It has not been in the pursuit of pleasure that I have periled life and reputation and reason. It has been the desperate attempt to escape from torturing memories, from a sense of insupportable loneliness and a dread of some strange impending doom.”~ Edgar Allan Poe

Due to recent events, it is time to set the record straight.

I have been getting asked very frequently in recent days about whether or not I drink. Most specifically if I drink alcoholic beverages.

Most of my social life revolves around live music, which everyone knows. And of course live music venues are usually clubs and bars where the sale of alcohol is their prime business. A large percentage of people that know me, well that’s where they see me. In venues.

Happy to say that they are kind enough to want to buy me a drink. However, 99.98% of the time I either politely decline their offer outright or I tell them that I don’t drink and come up with a counter offer to something like a Coke or a soft drink of some sort.

Ever since I started enjoying live music, this is how I have operated. People are accepting of it and respectful.

The other night however I was spotted by a great number of people enjoying a beer. Suddenly, people were very, VERY confused at what they saw. One person said that they thought that they were dreaming.

And another night, someone said that they saw me having shots with some band members.

So now, this is my public service announcement to those who are stumped, confused, and essentially losing their mind over the subject.

I will start out by actually answering the question: DO I DRINK?

Answer: Yes.

As just about everyone else on the planet, after I surpassed the legal age of drinking, I did have my times of going to the night club, watching people, enjoying music, and drinking. And I learned what my limit was to where I knew that I needed to stop so that by the time I went home, I was sober enough to safely do so.

But after a while the money that I was spending on buying drinks was growing and growing that by the end of the month I didn’t have enough money to feed myself.

I finally stopped going to the night club because it got very boring to me, and I didn’t like how much money I was spending on drinks. I even stopped going to the store to buy alcohol.

This went on for a while and if I was drinking anything at all, it was at someone’s home. Usually during a dinner or some small gathering of friends.

And now with the atmosphere of live music, and the passage of time, the idea of drinking is less appealing. But that is mainly due to the COST of buying alcohol.

The other factor is whether or not the restrooms in the venue are actually accessible. If I am not able into a restroom at a venue or have a lot of difficulty doing so, then I will simply choose not to drink. And a lot of the times when I politely refuse it is because of the accessibility situation. And that is commonly what the situation is. If I cannot properly relieve myself when I am away from home…. I won’t drink.

My travels in recent years to Houston, I may have ONE beer if anything. But that is only because the venues that I have attended are not accessible at all. Some in Austin are a lot easier but not quite what I would need to make sure that I can get the business done.

Having Spina Bifida makes consuming alcohol more of a pain in the ass!! It goes through the bladder a lot faster than the average person. To put this very bluntly, if I am at some venue and I have a drink or whatever and I have to urinate, because of the decrease in bodily function and control, all it takes those few seconds that I am transferring from the wheelchair to the toilet before it just comes pouring out of me getting all over me and my clothes. And essentially making me unfit for social interaction for the rest of the night.

There have been times when I have been on antibiotics or other medication that warn against drinking while taking it. Thankfully, that is not the case all of the time.

So I am NOT necessarily against drinking. It has nothing to do with personal beliefs or anything like that. I’m not necessarily restricted from drinking. It just depends on where I am and what I am able to do when nature strikes. It obviously would be a lot easier to deal with at home as I can just clean up and if need be change clothes. It is not that easy to do when I am not at home. Even if I take extra with me.

And I am definitely NOT trying to offend anyone or hurt their feelings when they want to buy me a drink and I say no or counter offer them with something else. It is just my way of self-preservation.

I AM against the idea of being drunk and trying to ride the bus home. Bus drivers are instructed to deny passengers too inebriated from riding. I have witnessed others being told to get off the bus. I don’t wish to be stranded somewhere when I am not close to home. Or at all!!

So for those reading who have tried to buy me drinks, keep in mind the following:

If I can’t easily get into the rest rooms where I am at. I won’t drink.

If I am on medication, I won’t drink.

I will not go beyond my personal limit of consuming alcohol.

I have no problem with your courtesy, in fact it is appreciated. In fact, I would LOVE To have a drink with you!! And I will always thank you later for it. But there are just parameters that I follow when the question of drinking comes up.

I hope this answers the questions that you have had and/or clears up any confusion. Feel free to start a conversation in the comments below if there’s anything that I missed.

A World Made Up Of Choices

“When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It’s all a matter of perspective.”~ Harvey Mackay

As of lately, I have been noticing something that is beginning to not only be trending (for lack of a better term) but alarming.

Social media websites are being used time and time and time again for PSA purposes.

Many people have taken to the pulpit now to spread whatever message they desire.

With it being politics time again in the United States of America, there is an unspoken promise that there will be individuals who express themselves through their political beliefs. It happens every time an election is upcoming.

Some people will cheer, others will jeer.

But I’m not here to talk about politics. I’m not about to unravel about how you have the choice to talk about politics because we already know that you do. Some just act upon them.

I’ve noticed that people that I know on social media have been giving out these very long and lengthy, paragraph-like statuses to explain to their “friends” that they’ve come to a decision and have made one and why they have made that decision.

The choice is within all of us, we make decisions based on what we prefer to choose every day.

However, why are we spreading the news about WHY we made that choice??

This is the issue I am speaking of here.

For whatever reason, I am continually CHOOSING to press the “Unfollow” button on Facebook on so many people because of their incessant need to explain themselves for whatever they have recently said or have done.

In recent times, I was at an event and I was explaining that I had gone somewhere out of town and came back within 24 hours. The person that I was talking to repeatedly kept asking me why I did what I did and said what I said.

My final response to why was “Because I could.” And I gave no further answer, rhyme, reason, or explanation.

I didn’t really have to.

And that’s the point. There’s been this unnecessary “need” to explain everything and anything. Why is that, though???

I woke up this morning and got dressed, putting on a t-shirt I collected at SXSW Music Festival 2015. Why? There is no why. I just did it.

We as human beings have our boundaries. We have our reasons and rhymes. But as of lately a lot of these human beings have either forgotten or failed to see that we are allowed to have them and we do not live in any society on the planet where we are bound by laws, to HAVE to explain ourselves.

Our boundaries are our boundaries. I do not want to do that – because I do not want to do that. And that’s all anyone else needs to know.

I feel that we need to do better taking care of ourselves in that respect. Some have, others fail.

But with anything, practice makes perfect. If we just tried. We wouldn’t HAVE to make these weird announcements for our lives. We would not HAVE to get on the pulpit and preach our decisions to …. basically, a world of people who don’t give a damn to begin with. (With some exceptions. Some will care.)

Then again it is OUR choice to decide whether or not we wish to tell those who care the reason or rhyme behind our decision.

So I’m standing up against the awful cliché that we HAVE TO EXPLAIN OURSELVES. Because we don’t.

Let’s better ourselves.

The Reblog

So maybe this would be something that fellow bloggers can help me understand.

That is the REBLOG.

I’ve seen it used. I know that two posts of mine have been reblogged by others.

Still… what would be the point? Why aren’t bloggers blogging any more??

Granted nobody wants to be accused of stealing one’s creative works. And nobody wants to go through any bitter arguments. But reblog?

I guess I am too old school for it. If I had seen something that I thought I would share with you here, then you know that I would provide you the URL for it.  

Technology and its ways are moving so fast. I wonder if I will ever be able to catch up with it??

Maybe there are some benefits to it that I am not getting or understanding.

Maybe there is something more to it because I think its just another way of being lazy. But that’s just me.

I’d rather provide for my followers rather than clicking a few buttons and EXPECTING them to go read something else.

It could be that I just prefer my own creative content.

So if you have any answers, I’m all ears to the comment section below.

Thank you in advance.