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A Rare Day

Posted: January 23, 2013 in Uncategorized
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“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.”~ Sydney J. Harris

I am absolutely beside myself today. And a long range of openness and freedom lies ahead.

No appointments, no GED students, no babysitting, no need to hang by the telephone, no deadlines…. nothing.

This is a rare day indeed.

And I have no clue what to do for the rest of the day.

As we all know, these kinds of days are very few and far between. But they also are a very welcomed experience in a sense. But then if you get like me, you honestly have no clue what to do with yourself.

Anything that I have done earlier this morning was because I wanted to. However it turned out to sting a little. But nothing that I could not recover from.

And I still have this entire day of nothing to do, nowhere to go, and no obligations.

Good grief, this hasn’t happened since Madison was President, perhaps earlier than that!!

I could jump into my creative writing projects, I could sleep the rest of the afternoon. I could do anything.

But I was told that whatever I decide to do, that I should relax.

And it got me thinking…. how does one actually relax? Is it from sleeping? Is it from a massage? Is it from going to the beach and talking a walk in the sand?

More than likely the answer comes in various ways as we are different from one another and we find our own ways of relaxation.

So then my question to you is: What do YOU do to relax?


“Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself – and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.”~ Jim Morrison

Four years. Four very quick and yet long years since I had escaped the situation that I was in while living in Massachusetts with my ex-girlfriend. It was on this day in 2008 that I was in a position to leave her and ultimately allow myself to have back my life and my freedom.

It was one of those times in my life that I can honestly say that once I left, I never looked back again.

I was able to change things that I felt had gone terribly wrong. I honestly believe that if I would have stayed with her that I either would have been so miserable or even dead.

The fact still stands that I was able to CHANGE things. I had set out on a goal to leave. I made a plan. And with the help of my family, I was able to get out of the troubled and dangerous relationship that I was in.

And since then, I sit back and ponder of the last four years of what I have done. The things that I have accomplished. And the people that I would meet for the first time. And even going as far as to think about those people and whether or not they are still a part of my life today. Most of them are. Some of them are not. I’ve realized how much of a support system that I’ve had in place when I was getting over the lasting effects of the relationship.  And I also ponder the many times I’ve heard stories of other people who are in situations that did have some common factors from mine. The biggest common denominator of them feeling miserable and unhappy.

But I often must remind myself that not everyone who has similar problems as I used to have actually has the opportunity or support system that I had. Not everyone has people in their lives that they could turn to help them escape their negative situation.

The good news is that there is still hope. There’s always hope for those people who have enough of a desire to be able to make the decision to change.

It is very easy to just give up and surrender on our hopes and dreams of a better life. Particularly once we began the journey and then we are met face to face with something that blocks our path. Many just give up. They do not seek any other options and therefore they do not find another way to get around whatever it is that stands in our way.

And it is not just relationships, it is very true in many aspects of life in general.

The best example that I can give is that earlier, the sledge hockey team got together and had a meeting. There was some talk about going to the next tournament in 2013 in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. Of course, those of us who were in Dallas this past April know just how much fun it was to have been there to participate. Having that experience was such a blast. It would stand to reason that they would want to go to Philadelphia to be able to participate again.

But the team on the majority voted NOT to go.

I was disappointed because I personally would like to go. But it all depends on how much of a desire that I have to go. I cannot allow this to stop me and I cannot let this block the journey to attend the next tournament. I decided that instead of  just giving up, that I will explore any and all avenues that I can take up in order to go. And I’ll take it from there.

NEVER allow anyone or anything get in your way of your freedom. Take every possible avenue there is to obtain what you need. Be yourself and let yourself fly!!