Posts Tagged ‘motivation’

“Look at him. He gets out. He goes to shows. He does whatever the hell he wants to! He doesn’t sit around at home and shit. He isn’t sad about his condition. He doesn’t let it stop him either.” ~ Dr. Froth

This was the words of Dr. Froth not that many years ago about me at a time long before I had ever met him or SIX MINUTE CENTURY.  Someone who apparently had some kind of illness or medical condition was mentioning that he wanted to go to the next show of theirs, but could not do it because of the condition.

Dr. Froth turned around and didn’t believe it for a second that it should be a legit excuse. He had used my life as the example of his encouragement to this man in order to boost his spirits and get him to realize that he can do whatever he wanted.

Ironically, Dr. Froth didn’t know that much about me at that time. His idea of using my life as a positive example was actually correct. Lucky hunch? Not really. He just really took the example of my life as he had known it to that point in order to prove his point. Several months later, he would work with me on an itinerary to get me to my first show.

All evening long tonight, I have heard excuse after excuse after excuse from many people. And as I sat there in silence, I kept thinking about Dr. Froth’s words that were spoken so long ago.

Even though it is true that I will personally never be able to do the exact same things as other people around me doesn’t mean that I should just allow myself to be swallowed up by the dark cloud of depression and sit in the corner inside of my home… waiting for death.

But I can honestly say that in the past decade there are some wonderful examples of my life experiences where I had gone and made a decision to do something or go somewhere. And even though it might have been difficult, I did NOT give up. And I think back on those times and I can honestly say that the experiences were rewarding in various ways. All because I made the decision to do it.

And to add to it all, I have so much less opportunity than others do and I STILL DO IT!!! So then yes, if I CAN do it……… SO CAN YOU!!! And even though I can do far less than you, I am still successful. Just think of the rewards that YOU can achieve.

With this evening’s bombardment of people throwing excuses left and right just really made my stomach turn. There’s something inside of them that is allowing them to bow to defeat. Meanwhile, people with less fortunate lives are out there surpassing what you’ve been wanting to do but haven’t done yet because of the excuses you have been making which has stopped you.

I personally don’t believe the excuses that I’ve heard tonight. I believe that these downtrodden people have come up with their own excuse that they think is legit and its their way of saying to themselves that they’ve quit and its okay.

Bullshit.

And yes, I do understand that there are things that we would love to do that we probably never will be able to if we lived ten thousand lifetimes. Everyone still has their boundaries.

Ten years ago if you would have told me that I would be playing sports, particularly sledge hockey, I would have kicked you out of my home on the grounds of believing you were insane. But now I have been playing it for many years now. And I keep getting better at it. 

Make the decision to do the things that you’ve dreamed of. Start out slow and small and work your way to the top. Failure should never be an option in life. Neither should one be afraid of failure. That is why they call it dusting yourself off and getting back up and trying again.

How about this: You never know until you try.

Ever hear that one before? You probably have and you have just forgotten about it. Shame on you.. to be honest!!

I have done some pretty awesome things in the past decade. I have done a lot of traveling that took me places that I never thought I would be. I have met people that I would never thought that I would meet. And the greatest reward of all of that was that they are still a part of my life today.

I’ve done things that people are just simply amazed at when they hear about it. Why? Because I am not laying on my bed wishing for a miracle to be delivered to my front door. I get up out of bed just like the rest of the world and I have gone through that front door and entered into that world and made myself a force to be reckoned with.

And if that doesn’t do it for you, remember one thing.

While you are sitting there thinking of ways that you cannot do something that you want to do, I am finding ways to do the same exact thing and then I am doing it. Thus, I am BEATING YOU TO IT!

How foolish do you feel now?

 

“Get in there, and clean that pig sty!!”~ my Mother.

Throughout most of this past weekend, I have taken the time to go through my place and clean it. Mainly the important reasons are because I am about to go through our monthly inspections.

Now it is not something that they are going to come in here and do the white glove test by any means. The purpose for the inspections are to make sure that things are working properly. Making sure that light fixtures work, the water runs, toilet flushes, and so on. But they do want to make sure that the unit is kept in general housekeeping standards.

The problem is that the definition of what is good housekeeping standards varies from person to person, whomever is doing the inspection. So it is difficult to know whether or not its “clean enough”. I believe that their concern is that there’s not trash all over the floor and old food left out on the countertops and what not. Things that could eventually lead to bigger and deeper problems in the future.

Usually for me though, I’m always checked off that everything works that needs to work but when it comes to “general housekeeping”, the comment is left: Follow-up.

What the heck does that mean?? They’ve never said, “Okay, you’ve got two weeks to clean this place up.” In fact, my housecleaning status has never come under fire. I’ve always had things cleaned up to the best that I physically can, without any help or assistance.

So I had a pow-wow with my apartment manager one morning. I asked “what is general housekeeping standards”?

It was put across to me in this way:

If you met a girl on the street and you wanted to bring her back to your place for a little hanky-panky, once she walked through the front door–would you be humiliated??

Nice point. Motivation is always key.

I do however get very frustrated when I know that things need to be done around, and its something that I cannot do. I need to either ask for help or not be so hard on myself. Yet I strive to make sure that IF that scenario were to come true, that I would not fall into humiliation.

My mother always motivated myself and my brother to clean our room with the comment: Clean up your room, just in case the President of the United States comes for a visit.

It worked for a while.

Now this new motivation of whether or not a woman would dare to visit here is the new motivation in keeping things just a little bit better and better.

Motivation works in different ways for different people. It will cause a person to become more focused on something that they find is the desired effect in the end. A good example is people who want to stop smoking. They find their reasons why they should and then they search themselves to find the positive effects of them reaching the goal. Better health, more money in their pockets, and so on. But that’s only one example.

I think that humiliation in this form, is just life’s way of saying to you that your motivation is low and needs a lot of work. If a woman DID come in here and she found a pair of scorched underwear on the floor or something, then yes, I’d be totally lost within myself and I would make so very sure that NO underwear would be found on the floor ever again!!

So until I am able to find the help & assistance to help me, I continue to do what I can. And I have come to that point where I can do no more today. I’m sure I’ll find bits and pieces to tidy up from now until the day of inspection. But anything that could cause me to be humiliated is no longer there. So ladies, BRING IT ON!! Besides, I think that my mother would be proud. She would question a few things but then once she realizes it is something that is out of my reach or control, she’d smile and probably be more understanding and possibly get it done for me.

In all things, we all have our slumps. We have those things in which we really don’t wanna do but we know that we must. So finding that motivation is very important. If we cannot find it, or do not look for it, then we’ll end up not doing what we are supposed to and thus suffer the consequences for our own actions because we did not do what we should have in the first place.

What motivates you???