Posts Tagged ‘opinion’

music-concert-metal-horns-hand-signs-1440x900“If heavy metal bands ruled the world, we’d be a lot better off.”~ Bruce Dickinson

Saw this video on YouTube. I know that it was uploaded a while ago in 2011. But I am still going to address this. Because I laughed my butt off at this and its bound to make metal fans unite against this kind of ignorance and intolerance and juvenile behavior.

I must admit that it appears the person who made this video is probably under the age of twelve. Definitely not a high school student at all.

So I’m not going to just go ghetto on this girl, but I am going to respond. I just have to because of the amount of laughs it brought to me over her OPINION of heavy metal music.

Let me repeat….. this is only her opinion and has no concrete evidence or connection to what she is saying. She does not provide any references to back up what is being said either.

So let’s sit back and watch this brief “heavy metal PSA” together and allow me a few moments of commentary because this video is so bad… TOO much so that it shouldn’t just be let go. Its only 109 seconds long. Less than two full minutes.

Let’s begin.

0:09 – “Heavy metal is evil and bad. It is the music of the devil.” No. Not all of it. There is some types of heavy metal music that harps on the topic of Satanism and the devil. But not ALL of it. 

0:19 – “People who listen to it are evil bad people. All they do is think about death and the devil.” Actually not really. I’m sitting here thinking about different things. What to eat later. How to make it to certain events coming up soon. Girls. Sex. But none of it has anything to do with death OR the devil. So, sorry, you’re totally wrong because not “all they do is” think about death and the devil.

0:24 – “The music is bad too. All it is is fat people screaming and yelling about the devil…” The music being bad is a simple matter of personal opinion. However, I do not know of any one person who sings or who is involved in heavy metal music to be fat. I can think of several kinds of people who are in heavy metal… both local and internationally well known. NONE of them are fat. What’s your definition of fat though? Nobody that I know is overweight. But if the music is bad- that’s a personal opinion. 

0:31 – “Metalheads are ugly too. Real people who like rap and pop are soooooo more awesome than people who like that evil stuff.” First of all, your grammar officially SUCKS. Secondly, you are beginning to show a lot about yourself with this video. You are obviously more interesting in rap and pop music and therefore will not even entertain the idea of branching out and listening to other genres of music, such as heavy metal, because you have it wrapped tightly around your brain that it IS evil. When the majority factor of heavy metal is not evil. I’m going to go ahead and assume right here and now that you were taught this by a religion organization. Perhaps a youth ministry or a church. And they didn’t say anything about your precious pop and rap music, so since your religious leaders said that heavy metal is evil and nothing but the devil….. therefore pop and rap is awesome and heavy metal is not. Again, that is a personal opinion of yours. And what the heck is your problem???? “Metalheads are ugly too.” Have you fallen and struck your head recently? Ugly is within the eye of the beholder, but there are some ugly people in rap and pop as well. Ugly people are everywhere!! Not just in heavy metal. Get a grip, go outside and observe. But what really bothers me at this point is your shitty grammar. You MUST be a young one to not have caught on to your own grammar mistakes. You didn’t go back and proofread a thing!!! 

0:45 – Now you have an audio comparison. I do not understand what’s going on with the heavy metal song that you have selected. I simply do not recognize it. 

0:49 – “If you want REAL music listen to Eminem or Mac Miller. They talk about real life, and are soooooooo hot and talented.” So everything on the planet that is NOT Eminem and/or Mac Miller’s music…. is not music at all? This is what you are implying. Granted you’re still on your kick to diss heavy metal. But in this statement you outdid yourself and pretty much insinuated that ALL MUSIC IS NOT MUSIC, unless it is Eminem and/or Mac Miller. As far as them being “sooooo hot and talented” that again is YOUR opinion. So this video pretty much is one big soapbox of your opinion on music and what YOU think is good and what YOU think is evil. You simply do not know what heavy metal talks about in their lyrics and songs. You’ve made that abundantly clear without having to say a word. How ignorant can you get?? And we’ve still got another minute to go of this heavily opinionated stuff.  “Hot and talented” you say– clearly these are your favorite music artists and they honestly have no business being the exaAnd in addition…… once more, your grammar is horrible!! Why didn’t you fix it when you had a chance?

1:01 – Again is the audio comparison. This is not the heavy metal portion, that was first. Now you have chosen to place Mac Miller’s music to compare to the heavy metal portion that you had before. (I had to look it up to find out who it was first off. You obviously have a thing for Mac Miller’s music because you’ve brought up the fact that Mac Miller’s music is the only thing that is music and nothing else is music.) But still with this portion of the comparison, I cannot understand the words going on here!!! So at 0:24 you said that it was just yelling and screaming. Well this sounds like a bunch of garbled nonsense! What’s the difference if you are screaming and yelling or if you are mumbling and rambling with nonsense? Not to mention that the moment at 1:10 shows someone consuming food, virtually stealing from their job. NICE touch!!!! So stealing is much better than yelling and screaming. Got it.

1:24- “So now that ppl know that metal sucks, everyone should listen to real music, like rap, pop, and techno. Stuff that isn’t yelling or screaming!” Have you heard some of stuff in rap, pop, and techno as of lately???? Some of the time they ARE yelling and screaming. Not all of it…. but there are some examples of it where they are screaming. Plus the lyrics of rap and pop… really? You wanna keep going with this??? And what is this? “ppl”… this isn’t a text message. Learn to spell.

1:32- “They play instruments which take no talent. Real talent is rapping and dancing, not playing guitar, unless your Justin Bieber, he plays guitar so good!!!” Okay you must be REALLY REALLY REALLY young. Yes it takes talent to rap and rap well. Yes it takes a bit of talent to dance. But it also takes “real talent” to play ANY INSTRUMENT!!!! I mean ALL OF THEM!!!!! You dare to champion Justin Bieber against people who have been in the music industry almost twice as long as Bieber has been alive!! Bieber may be very popular and famous.. but he’s still a nobody. He is a shining star that is fading. And damnit already with your grammar!!!!!! You are a really good candidate for being someone grounded from being on the Internet. 

1:39- “Jesus doesn’t like metal. Jesus < 3 ‘s rap and pop.” I sure would really love for you to tell me how you KNOW what Jesus likes and what Jesus loves, as far as music is concerned. Please tell me how you know for a fact that Jesus doesn’t like metal and loves rap and pop????? With a statement like that, I am almost assured that you were TOLD by someone else (probably by the church) that metal is bad, evil, and of the devil. They told you this so that you don’t listen to it. And even though you did not say this in your video, I would not be surprised if they told you that if you listen to heavy metal, you are going to hell. Didn’t they???

So thank you very much for this video. I laughed so hard!! I guess I’m evil. I guess I am the devil too!!! According to your own words printed in this video…. I needed the laugh. I really did. And you also come across to prove my point that stupid people shouldn’t breed.

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“Well for ‘a brief shining moment’…and then that mouth”~ Michael Caine in “Miss Congeniality” [2000]

In my short life online, I have to say that I have stumbled and mixed paths with some very beautiful women. And in the beginning, I knew that kindness and respect would get me far. But back then, ashamed to say that it didn’t actually last too long before I gave them the unusual impression that I was some kind of maniacal marauder.

Why? Because of my mouth.

It was awful that I had said something so quizzical to someone that it would be misconstrued. The next thing I know, they vanish forever. And probably offended to the most degree.

Looking back, I honestly regret having said what I did. And understanding HOW that might have been a bad thing. Lessons learned over the course of several years before I learned to relax and just take things one conversation at a time. And actually take time to think and re-think and then re-think again before I say much of anything.

But the mouth returns and gets in the way and just blows everything into bits.

I’ve abandoned the complete and total adulation conversation for the most part. Through experience and watching others, the adulation is nothing that these women hasn’t heard before by anyone else. So why in the world would I believe that I would stand out? One doesn’t necessarily stand out when joining the masses of others who have gotten out of control to speak their opinions about how gorgeous, beautiful, and sexy some woman is.

I’ve learned that models, personalities, and “small time celebrities” are human too. Complete with feelings and opinions of their own. And they are none too shy to express that, when you are talking with them and acting like a complete and total ass hat.

Almost ten years ago, I was chatting with a woman from Hollywood, California. And even though everyone who reads this blog knows how I feel about all of that, I was attempting to get passed all of that and actually KNOW the woman. She was a performer of sorts. So I casually brought up the question of what it would take (money wise) to have her come local and perform.

When she gave her price, which was seriously high, I sat there blinking and staring at the screen thinking what in the world could cost THAT much money! She also insisted on paying for airfare and a place to sleep, which I did think was fair. But both items didn’t actually cost that much money. So then: enter my mouth.

What I told her was a legit concern. I was worried about spending so much money for her to do what she does and then just leave and return home. To me, it wasn’t worth it so I asked her if she was willing to do something more than that so that it would be worth that high price in my mind. But it came across to HER like I was propositioning her for a little “somethin-somethin” on the side.

Needless to say that she vanished within a month after that conversation online.

I could see the problem and it was an accident, a  mistake. But I could still see why she split!

And then a little more than a year ago it happened again with an author that I was attempting to get across my point that I wanted an autograph. She doesn’t live nearby so it would take some money and travel in order to personally receive her autograph. And I went on and on about how expensive that would be to me and what not. I was very comfortable giving her my mailing address to see what she might sign and put in the mail.  Again, the mouth got in the way. Even though she attempted to bring up a tentative invitation of having lunch or coffee.

I have since then learned to pull back and tone it down…. A LOT!

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I always get the generous invitation and then my mouth turns around and spoils it.

If I do not respect these women, then I shouldn’t expect them to respond kindly.

I think that though it is totally awesome that when these kinds of things happen with certain women and they offer a tentative time for lunch or coffee or drinks with their family and/or husband, that it should tell me that they are trusting in me enough to do something so bold. And that I have EARNED their trust. I think that it comes from each and every time I have spoken to these women that I have been nice, social, kind, as well as respectful. Particularly when there is a mention of a husband.

 

Why wouldn’t there be a husband? I think that these women are very attractive, so its not a surprise that they would be married for years already. But they are showing their trust in me and that really needs to sink in.

Also I should learn that when these women are willing enough to offer something like that. I just need to be thankful towards them and then after that? SHUT THE HELL UP!!!!

I should not complain about the difficulty, I should not complain about the hardship in order to make it happen. Rather I should stop talking and then later on try to figure out a way TO MAKE it happen!

Very early this morning I received yet another generous invitation. It was the “if you are ever in the area….” conversations. The thing is that it was the second time she had mentioned it. And instead of seeing that she was quite serious and friendly about her invitation, I opened my mouth about how I could take a day trip and make all kinds of fun about it, but after the holidays.

Saying crap like that can often lead to a retraction of someone’s invitation. Its happened to me before. I hope however, that this most recent flap of the lips didn’t do any damage at all.

I hope that my brief stories of experiences will be a warning to some. Telling someone that you think they are beautiful isn’t a crime. However, going on and on and on about it gets old fast. More than likely, they’ve already heard it before so many times that it just flies over their heads as they ignore it all.

There’s nothing wrong with thinking that someone is beautiful or sexy. However if you vomit your opinion on someone, all you are doing is getting them dirty and they aren’t going to like it all that much and so their first impression of you is automatically negative.  Red_Head_Beauty

Will you stand out in their mind? Maybe. But if you do, it might not be what you were wanting.

Men and women DO have feelings just like yourself. If you’re just trying to jump in the sack with someone that you just saw and thought that they really flip your pancakes, chances are that if you take that route of trying to gain their attention, you may get their attention. But your pancakes are going to burn.

Stop burning your pancakes. Treat other people with respect.

And this goes for me as well as others– learn to shut up. Less can be more in this situation.

I’m actually stunned most of the time when I see the comments and posts made by men that are constantly the same. And then they say the same to other women. As if they are spreading around their so-called complimentary words thinking that eventually one of them are going to take the bait.

Nine times out of ten, its going to be ignored. Sad to say that in my early years of being online, I did nearly the same thing. I did however, learn not to vomit on women. Sometimes my mouth will cause a little spit up as I struggle with learning to shut up, but a little drool is a lot easier to clean up than verbal vomit.

I get so frustrated at times when I read these kinds of comments. It makes me want to reach into the monitor and choke them and try to slap some sense into them. But that’s never going to happen. And I suppose that when they are in this habit of doing crap like that, then the chances of them learning the mistake is less and less.

For lack of a good analogy: Let sleeping dogs lie.

Express yourself but do it with respect towards others. Learn to leave it alone.

 

 

 

 

No Thank You

Posted: November 3, 2012 in Uncategorized
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“There are no regrets in life, just lessons.”~ Jennifer Aniston

Its only the third day of November and already I am just shaking my head.

If you are on Facebook or have been in the past few years, you know about this activity in which every day in the month of November you post about something that you are thankful for.

That’s it. One day, one thing.

It seemed harmless and innocent from the first time that I learned about it. And now its becoming a bore and something that is so predictable.

Unfortunately you will find those who are active in this idea, but they tend to forget for a number of days to post what they are thankful for. I honestly think that for a few, its not possible for them to come up with thirty different things. I laugh each and every time when I see that by the middle of the month, someone has given thanks for something that they posted that they were already thankful for. They go into a repetition that is just too laughable.

These things in which people are thankful for become so cluttering, especially when they have simply forgotten for a few days and then they unload in a post of many things at once.

I know that November is the month in which people who live in the United States spend one day of Thanksgiving. And this activity on Facebook was probably started by someone who lives in the United States.

But why is it that people are so in tuned for many things that they are thankful for in the month of November? Is it because of the American holiday of Thanksgiving which makes this activity come into play? My point is why can’t there be a sharing of things in which we are thankful for THROUGHOUT THE ENTIRE YEAR?? Why is it just focused in on the month of November.

So yeah, in this year of 2012 I have seen some people tackle it. But they didn’t even bother to start off on the right foot. Yesterday being the second day of November, people who engaged in this were double posting what they were thankful for.

It may or may not be interesting to watch to see just how long it takes for people to repeat themselves for their thankful posts, whether accidental, forgetful, or whatever. It usually happens after the 16th or 17th of the month before someone goofs up and repeats themselves.

And this is never to say that I am not thankful for anything. I think that if you have been paying attention to this blog for any length of time, you know how appreciative and thankful I am for a lot of things. I just don’t think its necessary to narcissistically go on and on on a daily basis throughout one month of the year.

Rant over.

 

 

“It is astonishing what force, purity, and wisdom it requires for a human being to keep clear of falsehoods.”~ Margaret Fuller
 
It can honestly be amazing what kinds of personal advice that we seek from other people. We could probably ask 100 people and tell them that we are seeking their advice on one particular situation. Once their advice and/or opinion is offered, then it is also amazing what we do or don’t do with it.
 
It’s called a “choice”. The things that we choose to do or not do with the input that has been given to us after we request it, is the choice we have made.
 
But it can be pretty frustrating and disappointing once we have played the role of the sounding board and given our thoughts and input to those seeking our advice, only to find that the person never applied it to their personal lives in the first place.
 
This would become quite evident without the other person having to admit to you, “I didn’t take your advice”. Sometimes it just shows up on its own.
 
If for example,  someone came up to you asking for your advice on whether or not to break up with their girlfriend because things have been less than pleasant, and you knew that in the end the person seeking advice would be happier if they were single or at least away from the current situation- it will show up in their continuing misery because they never did call it quits and decided to press on with the relationship. Only to still be miserable and probably feel worse.
 
They didn’t have to admit that they didn’t take your advice. As a matter of fact, to my knowledge I have never heard of anyone ask for advice and then a few days later say, “I didn’t take your advice”.
 
I honestly would not find it all that surprising that anyone would do such a thing. Because what they are doing in fact, is admitting that they knew better but didn’t DO better.
 
That is the thing about it. They can come to you all they want and ask for it. But if it is not something that they honestly and truly want to do once your advice is offered, or they disagree with your advice then they are not going to follow it. And there’s nothing that you can do about it. You cannot make someone follow your advice once it has been offered.
 
I’ve given plenty of advice to all kinds of people. Sadly, most of them do not follow it. But then again, neither do they come back to me after they’ve been defeated in life and say, “You know what? You were right!”. That kind of thing just doesn’t happen in the real world.

Knowing your advice was not taken can often feel like this.

 
But it still feels so very disappointing when you’ve realized that you’ve given your time and effort to help a friend, and they continue to suffer with whatever it is that is giving them the problem because they chose not to follow what you had told them.
Let me repeat something for you:
 
You cannot make someone do something that they do not want to do in the first place.
 
I know that a lot of times when you do give someone your advice and the other person doesn’t follow it, that you sometimes feel like you never want to give that person advice ever again because since they didn’t follow it the first time, what will make you think that when they need help or advice again that they will the next time?
 
Even so, look at the other side of it. This person didn’t take your advice the first time. And now they are back for more advice- probably about something totally unrelated to the first. Instead of throwing your walls up and denying them, try to understand that if they are coming back to you again and again then it probably means that they still value your opinion. Even if it is something that they disagree with or do not follow.
 
Your thoughts, ideas, opinions, and advice are clearly of a greater value than you thought if they are returning to you again and again.
 
I know that from an earlier post called, “You’re Not Listening!”, I was pretty upset and steamed because I gave some advice and that person didn’t listen.
 
I will admit however, that the advice was just simply given and it was not something that was requested. I attempted to warn them not to get involved with something, and they did. And I knew that if they did, that they would regret it. And they did regret it. But there’s just nothing that I could’ve done about it. Still, I was pretty upset. And not to sound cocky but I knew that I was right. And so it became the next blog post so that I could just get my feelings of frustration out and let it go.
 
It was just a lesson that they were going to have to learn on their own.
 
I didn’t like it, I got upset and blew up. But after a while I calmed down and that was the end of it.
 
We’re not meant to police our family, friends, or loved ones. We cannot stop them from making what we might feel is the wrong decision. We are responsible in how we treat the other person when we are approached with the request for advice. What we say and how we say it. But we’re not responsible if it is not followed to the letter of the law… so to speak.
 
This is something that I hope to change personally in my own life in 2012.
 
And I am not saying that we are not allowed to be pissed off or disappointed or feel like we’ve wasted our time giving advice when it has clearly been ignored. I am saying that we’ve got to come to an understanding that whatever happens after we’ve spoken our mind is not up to us any more. If the person asks for it and then applies it to their situation and comes out smelling like roses, then HOORAY!
 
But if they don’t apply it to their situation and come out miserable, then there’s nothing much else that we can do. It will just have to be their cross to bear.