Posts Tagged ‘stalkers’

Well, ain’t I something special? I guess you just figured out that now I have a few online stalkers. So far, its nothing that is violent. However, I will not allow it to get that far because I will not allow them to control the situation.

But they slipped up, if they’ve been wanting to keep their identity hidden. I now know #1- that they’ve been sort of tracking me online and #2- I know exactly who they are. Someone tattled on them.

All I can truly say is- it sucks to be them!!

Now, I know that some people have a lot of problems with stalkers. It really ruins their lives, particularly women. But this “news update” for a lack of a better term, just goes to show that its not just females, but males as well.

I do not know what these people truly want, but I can only guess. I just know who they are and where and how I know them. That is the whole point of it, to not let anyone know you are doing it.

I suppose they are looking for information that is specific. Thinking that they are keeping me within their guidelines. Their problem, is that I am not giving out enough information as they would like to have. And you know what? Tough shit!

The Internet isn’t the best model forum to be an open book. There are way too many crazy and dangerous people out there. So of course, whenever I have posted something somewhere, if I have posted about an event or something that I did, I have ALREADY DONE it. So yeah, I could mention that I am going to the local bakery that is three blocks away. And that moron of a stalker could follow me there. But they won’t find me because I’ve already been there and back.

Now I know of several people (generally women) who have had their fair share of dealing with these kinds of people. And my heart goes out to them, it really does. I cannot imagine how difficult it is to have a man trying to control their every move. Some of the time, its not even a case of it being online.. its personal and in your face.

Yet in MY situation, its online. I’m sure it could become personal if they wanted it to. They know where I am at. But I highly doubt that they have the brain capacity along with intelligence to want to spend the money to do it. I’ve recorded everything they’ve done in my direction, and I’ve also made a note of information from third parties. Once something happens that is illegal, it will be reported and I won’t back down.

The whole point of stalking is to make the victim feel small and helpless. These people are NOT going to win!

So to you out there: I SEE YOU TOO!!!

Speaking about not winnning. Not that long ago, I received an e-mail from my ex. This person, I just don’t get.

It was not personal, there was no note attached to it. It was just a simple forwarded message about something in particular that she knew that I would enjoy. Something that has been circulating in inboxes for months, even years now. I’ve seen the damned thing 10 times already. But now I get it from the ex. Obviously she’s used a different e-mail address to be able to send it because she clearly would realize that I would block her.

Nevermind all of that though for a moment. The question I have is: WHY BOTHER?

What’s the point of communicating when it is over? She doesn’t owe me anything and I do not owe her anything. What’s the point of corresponding with me like this?

It has been over since September of 2008. That is when I left her. So yeah, it boggles this poor little brain of mine as to why. Done is done.

And of course me attempting to reply back to tell her to go away isn’t going to help things. It only gives her that opportunity for a false hope that she can latch on to.

Anyone else have that problem? It all seems just a little bit redundant to me.

If this post doesn’t cause any kind of reaction out of you by the time you finish reading it, then its time for the family to pull your plug.

There’s a lot of garbage out there in this world, and a huge majority of it resides on the Internet. True, we all come from different cultures, faiths, beliefs, and morals- but the fact remains that there are some really creepy bastards out there!

I’m talking about Facebook, of course. The continually evolving social networking website. We all have it, we all take part in it, and we all use it for one reason or another.

Personally though, I have been receiving a lot of “Friend Requests” lately. Quite honestly, all of them have been denied. I find it rather strange and still at the same time amusing that even though I have “35 friends mutually in common” and “12 interests in common” with the person who has sent the request, that I don’t know the person at all!

Who are you people? And what is it that you want? I have noticed that when I have sent my own various friend requests, that there is a space to write a note. I commonly do so now, so that the person to which I am sending the request understands who I am and why I am asking for the request. Not just letting it go on its own that I have half the neighborhood in common with them.

I’m not saying that I am totally innocent of this, but what I am saying is that I no longer leave an empty request. That person is going to know why I am sending a request, and can also factor in the mutuality in their decision as to whether or not they accept it.

There are a lot of low-life punks out there. You take a risk in adding someone that you do not know from Adam.

Generally, our Friends List is generated by several key groups of people:

Family & Relatives

Close Friends

Neighbors

Co-workers

and other Colleagues

Outside of that, the rest of the List is made up of people whom we have similar interests with.

There’s nothing wrong with making new friends. Not in my book! I enjoy getting to know other people and learning about what their lives are like. Especially if there is something that connects us in mutuality. Some people though, are just not that social. And they choose not to have fourty-thousand people on their Friends List, just because someone sent them a request. Some do it, because by them socializing with others that they are able to maintain a business relationship and possibly profit from it. I understand that as well.

But when I receive a friend request from some person, who mutually likes “brown hair and blue eyes”, and has 24 people mutually in common and those 24 people have brown hair and blue eyes and nothing else to offer? There’s a big freakin’ problem!!

These are the people that society needs to take notes about. Basically, all they want to do is have you add them to your Friends List, and then they are able to go rummaging through your photos and then sift through your own list of Friends and try to add them, so that they have MORE photos to go through and save to their own hard drives of people with “brown hair and blue eyes”. Quite selfish! And I will add- dangerous.

I’m not going to add this person because I associate with 24 mutual people.

I have said to people time and time again, that these are the kinds of people that make it so difficult for me to obtain and establish any kind of social interaction or relationship with others. These “trolls” are offending people to the extreme and they usually get away with it. So then those who have been burned have their guard up and so when I come along, I’m met with resistance and I have to deal with someone not being so open to the thought of establishing and maintaning a relationship with them.

Sadly, it is usually the males who are acting with rot against females. And so when I am trying to either maintain or establish, I fail because some jerk abused them in some way.

I believe that in time, those who are at least going to entertain the thought, will eventually see that I am showing my worth having around as a friend or colleague and therefore the merit will be the saving factor. If not, I’m deleted/blocked and I never hear from them again. And honestly? Its their loss, not mine.

I have been deleted/blocked before. Many times! It sucks too. But there’s nothing much I can do about it. They’ve obviously were not seeing anything worth redeeming. Again, their loss!

I’m not trying to be the super hero here. I couldn’t be one, even if I tried or wanted to. Its not up to me to try and save someone from whom I think has nothing but personal and selfish plans. Its up to them to make their own choice, whether or not I warn them. And if I do, its up to them whether or not they actually heed to my words.

The male/female relationship is difficult enough as it is. Especially those male/female relationships that are just there platonically. It just doesn’t help to have people making things far worse than they already are.

So its something to really consider, I think. Last summer, I actually removed and deleted nearly two hundred people from my own Friends List. A majority of them were there through association. They were removed because either they did not associate with me, or they were not able to communicate in a common language and just sat there, looking pretty. I realized “I don’t need this!”. So if they had not had any kind of true personal bond, or had communicated with me in the past three months at that point, they were gone.

Everybody is on Facebook for their own reason. They just make their own choices in how much they decide to use what is available to them. I just hope that they use a greater judgement when they decide to seek out people to add to their Friends List. And use a greater restraint for those times when others are out seeking them.

Be safe, people.