That says it all right there in the image. I think I’ll leave the size of it as is, so that anyone who reads this has no mistake in understanding.
I swear though that I come up with something new each and every week that is either life changing or mind changing in the very least.
Allowing someone else to own the keys to happiness doesn’t create more happiness. It just forbids you to be happy when you want to be happy… and that only scratches the surface.
What a difference life has changed in the past 1,177 days.
The effort of being the “perfect friend” or at least the putting forth the effort to prove that I am the one true honest friend does come with personal limitations.
What I have learned in this growth is that those people who are willing to push you beyond your personal limitations, really are people who are just willing to use up your kindness, your time, your energy and focus on them and never on you.
In those one thousand plus days, I’ve stopped “wearing the tie” and in fact, I’ve thrown them all away. The lesson finally sank in that one does not have to sacrifice in making the effort of keeping a friendship alive. All I had received was numerous nights of lost sleep, frustration, and one sided conversations.
One question remains to be legitimate in any relationship: WHAT ARE YOU GETTING OUT OF IT BY BEING IN IT???
I found myself faced with that question only to find that the answer for me was: Nothing.
Or if it was “something” it was anything that would be deemed undesirable.
In many cases I had placed my happiness in the hands of others. Especially with those that I wanted to prove to be the one true honest friend. What was I getting out of it? Nothing. Or something I didn’t want.
Besides, in the almost 3 years and 3 months since … the list of people that I felt I needed to prove something fall into categories that I never thought would be possible.
#1- I no longer associate with them.
#2- Involvement in a one-sided relationship.
#3- Responsibility of my happiness was in the hands of others. And 99.9% of those people’s hands didn’t care in the end.
Anyone that I “wore the tie” for either is out of my social circles or no longer seeks me counsel, or ear as it were.
I know that this seems scattered, but allow it to sink in for a while. It will make sense.
The big question is WHAT DO YOU GET OUT OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?
IF you come up with nothing- then perhaps its time to end things.
I simply refuse to “attempt to be there for someone” who dares to take advantage of the situation. And nobody should be treated like that. As well as your happiness is your own. Don’t allow others to dictate it.
Dambreaker 