“Crazy people don’t sit around wondering if they’re nuts.”~ Jake Gyllenhaal
It is hard when you watch someone that you’ve become to know for so long start to lose their marbles… in the most literal of sense.
Such is the case for the one that I will refer to as Super C.
Super C moved here to this complex around the same time that I did my first time in 2005.
Like many who live(d) here: Quiet, shy, withdrawn, anti-social.
But Super C was actually cared for by a few others and eventually Super C would see the errors of her ways and how life was just slipping away from her by her sitting inside of her dwelling day and night. She was shown the light that her ex-husband was a complete and total douche nozzle and she finally learned how to stand up to him and tell him where to go and the quickest way to do it.
She participated more and more and suddenly found herself with FRIENDS. WOW!! Who would have thought it?!?
However, Super C just like everyone else around here has her own sets of challenges and problems. Medicines and appointments with doctors and things to keep up with in her life.
As of lately the rest of us neighbors are finding that she’s unable to control it all. Either that or she just does not handle it well at all.
How many times has she had to go back somewhere because she left her glasses or wallet or purse or keys or cell phone???
A few years ago she suffered what the doctors called a mini-stroke. But she was back at home within a week. Her best of friends are no longer living. Her attendant has come to end of her rope with Super C. Her children do not visit. Her medicines are often rumored to be scattered everywhere in a pile of atrophying disarray and indecency.
The worst of it is not yet to come. I think that the worst of it has arrived and is living among us within Super C. It is also safe to say that everyone has made an effort or two or twelve to get her life back on track where its not so much a disaster. As soon as one person fills in with a complete system that is going to be helpful in the end, Super C slips up ONCE and then she’s back where she started.
I can see the will to help her has left the building. Or property in this case. Its no longer there within anyone.
People are literally afraid to deal with Super C any more. They are afraid that if they get involved too deep that they too will “end up just like her” and as shitty as that is to think or say… it is what it is around here.
Some say that the mini-stroke doomed her. Other people had faith in her that she would recover from her mini-stroke. And even more people seem to think that she might be too far gone because she lost her best friends in the world in the time span of about a year and a half.
It appears as if the simplest of life’s tasks has become monumental for her. As if she was looking at an entire valley of mountains and instantly believing that she will never make it.
Her latest tale is her supposed journey of walking in the pouring rain one morning where she began to tread with a walker 3.7 miles (5.95 km) by herself to return home from an appointment in which she was denied because she had an outstanding balance. And she had gone that far without her wallet.
She’s been called out on it and other alleged activities that she has been telling everyone who would listen to her.
A 70 plus year old woman with a walker isn’t going to walk nearly 4 miles…. in the rain. And then expect us to believe it when she’s not soaking wet, dragging in water with her shoes and her walker and just have a few raindrops on her back. She should have been drenched and dripping. But she was not.
Everyone tends to want to run away from her when they hear her begin a conversation with the words DID I TELL YOU…..??
Plus the fact that you and another person could be holding your own conversation and she’s going to chime in. Just like her friends did before they both died. In this case, it was something she was taught that she never should have been taught.
This morning’s episode was all about standing water in the rain water collection barrels. And that just isn’t possible as all of the barrels have screened filters on them. So there’s no standing water anywhere. She was quickly called out and she left the community room rejected and denied.
Calling her out isn’t going to help her state of mind. All it does it automatically say to her that people think she’s lying.
I don’t know though. It is just really really difficult to watch this progression. I am sure there are people out there who know what I am talking about. And probably deal with worse circumstances as they have watched a loved one slip away like this. I do not envy anyone of this.